Herald of thunder and wind dancer saying cant be used because of weapon set (using bow and crossbow)

I turned off my herald of thunder to turn on wind dancer but it would not allow me to turn it on. then it also would not let me turn the herald of thunder back on, I have tried unequiping and re equipping both weapon slots, have restarted game, I dont know what else to try

Same issue. Had 60 spirit and wanted to activate Herald + Attrition, by doing so Hearld of thunder turned off and I can't turn it back on by any means.